In this post, we go over shadow work for procrastination, or more specifically, when you are triggered by procrastination.
If you are triggered by procrastination, you need to own a sense of honor for your own timing.
But first, let’s quickly go over the topic of shadow.
What is Shadow Self & Shadow Work?
Your shadow self, or shadow, is the side of yourself you have no awareness of. It holds all the qualities you disowned during your formative years.
Although you learned to repress these qualities and push them outside of your awareness, they still live underneath the surface.
They unconsciously guide your actions and are the unseen cause for many of the troubles in your life.
Shadow work is the intentional practice of becoming aware of your unconscious shadow and integrating these neglected qualities into your being—becoming whole.
This is a process of building self-awareness, self-acceptance, and universal Love.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”Carl Jung
Shadow Work for Procrastination Trigger
Someone who is always late, can want to be timely. But unconsciously be self-sabotaging.
The unconscious will always win every battle by the way.
One reason why someone can be constantly late is a shadow belief that your existence isn’t impactful enough to matter if you’re on time.
Another reason is that it’s a way for someone to express anger through passive-aggressiveness. It’s a power move of “I’ll make you wait for me” because my time is more valuable than yours.
An uncooperative, entitled, and damaging effort to express independence and personal power.
While your ego is ashamed, the unconscious is giddy about your lateness.
The shame is what prevents you from seeing this in yourself. A defense from self-reflection.
However, one major reason that people procrastinate or are late is because, despite knowing they should be more timely, they are more compelled to do more for themselves.
This is not an attack on others. Instead, its an unconscious effort to compensate themselves. They’re stretched thin and the unconscious is trying to point them to taking more care of themselves.
This is why you find yourself “in the zone” or engrossed in any activities before you know you should be heading out.
There’s self-nurturance, self-soothing, and self-accommodation involved in this unwillingness to do what you “should” be doing.
If this is you, understand that you can better control this compulsion by recognizing that it’s something you really want to do, but it has to wait, and you will get back to it.
Relentlessly pushing forward to work on this current passion task when time is running out is a sign of black and white thinking.
A way of thinking that is more child-like, and at this time, inconvenient.
So to integrate this honoring of one’s timing really involves a lot of empathy and honoring yourself.
And it implies that you don’t let yourself get lost in your passions when you anticipate something scheduled coming up.
This is somewhat related to how people will block out their entire day for the one appointment they have that day that lasts like two hours or something.
It comes down to not letting yourself get lost in your passions because you’re living life on someone else’s schedule, and not accepting your limitations, or personal need for self-care.
Here are some resources I recommend:
Shadow Work for Beginners is based on my in-depth research and personal experiences with shadow work, projection, sadomasochism, inner child healing, triggers, and all things shadow. This resource gets updated at no additional cost.
A Light Among Shadows is a guide on self-love and being. This series goes over consciousness, spirituality, philosophy, and makes sense of why people are the way they are. Recommended for anyone dealing with resentment and self-hate. Learn more here.
Shadow Work for Relationships teaches you everything you need to know about attachment theory, practical inner work, and your dysfunctional behavior. By the end of this, you will have developed your earned secure attachment style so you can put an end to your cycle of bad relationships.
Shadow Work Journal: 240 Daily Shadow Work Prompts contains inner work exercises related to relationships, anger, anxiety, self-love, healing trauma, abandonment issues, depression, forgiveness, etc.
Self-Love Subliminal for self-hypnotism that will help you change your behavior and gain self-love, self-awareness, better relationships, greater health, and improve your creativity.
Shadow Play (or “DsR”) is a sister website that goes over “sensual” shadow work through BDSM experiences. If you are 18+ and are interested, go here.
Mindful & Mending is a small website that’s about self-hypnosis, affirmations, auto-suggestion, and more techniques & tools to help you shift your unconscious mind. Check it out here.