Are you looking for shadow work for inner child healing? Then, you've come to the right place!
But first, let's go over some key concepts.
What is shadow, and what is shadow work?
The shadow is the side of yourself that's disconnected and unfelt. It's the part of yourself that's been rejected since childhood, and you have no awareness of.
Shadow Work is integrating the entire spectrum of your being. It's the intentional process of admitting the parts of yourself you've ignored and repressed.
The shadow is the embodiment of potential that you've cast away and now need to integrate.
Admitting you have an unconscious shadow is the first step to "seeing" it voluntarily.
Integrating the shadow without biting off too much is the real challenge. You want to start cultivating these shadow qualities in a safe and ritualized way in your waking life.
What is the Inner Child?
Your inner child, similar to your shadow, is part of your unconscious mind.
The inner child is the true, uncontaminated essence of who we are, that which is spirited, creative, authentic, and accepting.
Your wounded inner child is a part of yourself that's stuck in a time where you didn't fully process your emotions.
This wounding typically involves learning to disown a part of yourself and leaving it behind.
Family and culture make you embrace some parts of your Self while altogether abandoning others.
This happens when a child idealizes her parents and follows arbitrary rules for survival.
These rules implicitly embed the child with the unconscious idea that she is "bad,"—which is a typical childhood experience.
When the child sees that some of her feelings and thoughts are unacceptable, she chooses to eliminate them.
(This creates the child's "inner parent," which encourages obedience at the cost of being whole.)
Then the rules and unconscious beliefs you learned as a child evolve and are carried into adulthood.
What are Inner Child Wounds?
When a child is bullied at school, feels less important than their newborn sibling, witnesses divorce, experiences racism or abuse, or anything else they perceive as traumatizing can create an inner child wound.
This is because a child might not be getting the secure love necessary to process these life events as best they can.
Emotions that are left unprocessed and undigested can leave the child with unhealthy, unconscious beliefs about their own existence.
Some examples of these underlying beliefs include:
- Nobody can be trusted
- I'm blameless & you'll always forgive me
- I'm always wrong
- I am pure
- I am helpless
- The world wants to dominate me
- I've always been a loser
- Everyone is ungrateful
You will unconsciously live out these positions in your relationships—even when it's against your self-interest.
Until you become aware of this, your psyche is in arrested development.
Engaging with the inner child through inner work can help mend these wounds by becoming aware of these underlying existential beliefs.
What is Inner Child Work?
Inner child work, or inner child healing, is becoming aware of what aspects of yourself you've denied and redeeming them via conscious integration.
It's doing the griefwork to digest and process emotions that you carry from the past.
While becoming conscious of the underlying beliefs that have been driving your existence.
By doing this, you become more emotionally mature and experience universal Love.
Recommended Articles about Shadow Work for Inner Child Healing
- Shadow Work Guide: Uncover Yourself & Become Whole
- Inner Child Healing: Emotional Maturity Using Inner Child Work
- Shadow Work Manifestation Series
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- Do I have inner child trauma?
- What are inner child wounds?
- Why Inner Child Work is Important
- 7 Benefits of Inner Child Work
- Does everyone have an inner child?
- Can you kill your inner child?
- How to Heal Inner Child Wounds
- Best Books on Inner Child Healing & Inner Wounds
- Does inner child healing work?
Here are some resources I recommend:
Shadow Work Course is based on my in-depth research and personal experiences with shadow work, projection, sadomasochism, inner child healing, triggers, and all things shadow. This course is updated every year and gets new content at no additional cost. Learn more here.
A Light Among Shadows is a guide on self-love and being. This short course goes over consciousness, spirituality, philosophy, and makes sense of why people are the way they are. Recommended for people dealing with resentment and self-hate. Learn more here.
Shadow Work Journal: 240 Daily Shadow Work Prompts contains inner work exercises related to relationships, anger, anxiety, self-love, healing trauma, abandonment issues, depression, forgiveness, etc.
Manifestation Manual: The Path of Least Resistance bundle teaches you some holistic and systems thinking along with how to mend your inner child wounds so you can align with your higher self and move forward in life. This includes 20 video clips as a free bonus.
Shadow Play (or “DsR”) is a small sister website that goes over “sensual” shadow work through my BDSM experiences. If you are 18+ and are interested, go here.