Can a heyoka heal a narcissist?

In this post, we discuss the question: can a heyoka heal a narcissist?

Can a heyoka heal a narcissist?

A super empath is someone who has a psychopathic personality disorder, and this person is able to compartmentalize compassion and lack of empathy. An emotional person would compare your vulnerability to their own and that’s when the person’s emotions go from cognitive to emotional. People who are super empaths aren’t codependent.

This person becomes a full-blown psychopath when they exhibit all of the narcissistic traits of the narcissist, but only come to light when the cognitive load is increased. When the super nova takes hold of this person’s personality, they are unable to compartmentalize. This person is a chaser light, utilizing all of their characteristics to the fullest extent possible. As with alexithymia, they are capable of reversing all compassion into cold and emotionless traits.

Basically, this is me: As a former psychopath who morphed into a malignant narcissist, I have a great deal of empathy for others. As far as I know, I do not have any characteristics that would preclude me from possessing this power.

Because of their paranoid personality disorder, the super empaths use alexithymia to get their feelings out of their system. With the super nova, you have someone who is able to compartmentalize their self-worth as greater than that of the narcissist. Narcissists don’t have to rely on this person because they can play the part. The narcissist’s manipulations have sexually aroused this person. The supply sought by the narcissist will not be forthcoming. Compartmentalization has created an imbalance in power: now, when they give the narcissist what they want, they are causing more harm than good to the narcissist because they are bigger than him. Narcissism does not understand why this person is not fighting back against them, and this is the most intriguing part of the super empath, which is when fluid and crystallized intelligence is becoming more aware of themselves and others. This is what enables the compartmentalizing of managing any individual.

Ways A Narcissist Is Destroyed by A Super Empath

  • Break the Narcissist’s Feeling of Entitlement

A sense of entitlement is one of the characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. The narcissist instills in the false image of themselves the belief that they deserve everything good in life. They also believe they should not have to work for those good things.

The super-empath can see through the entitlement and tell the narcissist the truth. They will not be afraid to tell the narcissist that they are not entitled to anything and should be grateful for what they do have in life.

The super-willingness empaths to confront the narcissist contributes significantly to their ability to crush their sense of entitlement. When confronted, the narcissist is afraid that their true self will be revealed. They don’t want to take that chance, so they’ll use different tactics or change their behavior with the super-empath.

While the super-empath is sympathetic to the narcissist’s suffering, they also recognize that the narcissist’s only way out is to confront the truth. That is why they are frequently willing to call out the narcissist’s bad behavior.

Furthermore, the narcissist is drawn to them because they believe the super-empath will want to focus on the narcissist’s needs. In fact, they are attempting to do so by assisting them in overcoming their narcissism. They see the pain behind the narcissist’s bravado and understand what will truly benefit the narcissist in the long run.

  • Subvert the Narcissist’s Passive-Aggression

Narcissists frequently employ passive-aggressive tactics to devalue and manipulate those around them. Super-empaths can detect what they’re doing and see through the narcissist’s attempts to control them.

When they recognize the narcissist’s passive-aggression, they can respond calmly without giving the narcissist what they truly want – the emotional response that makes the narcissist feel powerful.

Because super-empaths are in touch with their emotions, they can control them and respond in the exact opposite way that the narcissist desired. The super-empath can then confront the narcissist and confront them with their behavior.

While the narcissist may respond with rage, the super-empath can remain calm and simply ask the narcissist what’s behind their behavior. That is the last thing the narcissist wants to talk about, and using this tactic usually causes them to back down.

It’s an effective tactic for stopping the narcissist, and it can effectively destroy them if it exposes their inner shame and self-loathing. It’s not that the super-empath is unfeeling; rather, they recognize that it’s the only way for the narcissist to heal truly.

  • They Destroy the Narcissist’s Ego

Super-empaths are extremely intelligent people who are also emotionally aware. They can see through the narcissist’s facade and feel their pain. That means they can predict what will hurt the narcissist the most.

As a result, when they need to confront the narcissist about their bad behavior, they can do so in a direct and effective manner. Furthermore, if the narcissist begins to devalue the super-empath, they are perfectly capable of defending themselves.

They can use the narcissist’s devaluation tactics to shatter the narcissist’s ego and bring them to their knees. The narcissist, who has convinced themselves that they are the superior one in the relationship, will frequently fail to notice it coming.

The ability to read people and understand their strengths and weaknesses is a superpower of the super-empath. While they are caring individuals who want to help others heal, they can also protect themselves in devastatingly effective ways.

The most effective tool for a super-empath is to turn off their emotions. They turn icy cold, allowing them to attack the narcissist’s vulnerable ego. When they set their minds to it, they are quite capable of going for the jugular, which can destroy the narcissist.

  • The Narcissist is no match for them.

It is common for narcissists to be able to dominate in their relationships, and they are excellent at it. They are adept at spotting a person’s weaknesses and exploiting them in order to exert power and control over their victim.

The super-empath is a formidable opponent for the narcissist. These are people who are not only able to detect your anxieties, but also experience them physically. As a result, they’re able to tell a narcissist from a frightened person in a matter of seconds.

To dominate a narcissist, they must keep them on edge, which is easy to do when they understand the situation and know they’re dealing with one. Narcissists dread the super-ability empaths to read their thoughts and feelings.

To put it another way, the super-empath is dangerous because they can see through to the narcissist’s true self. When the narcissist is in a relationship, he or she will do everything in their power to prevent that from happening.

In the end, the narcissist will be destroyed by the constant fear of being exposed. It forces them to confront their own truths, which can lead to a mental breakdown.

  • They deflect the projection of the narcissist

Another favorite narcissist tactic is to project their own fears and flaws onto others. It’s a ploy to divert attention away from their true feelings. The super-empath, on the other hand, can easily discern what is going on.

Super-empaths are well-aware of their own emotions and abilities. They have a strong sense of self-awareness and self-esteem. As a result, this strategy simply does not work on them.

When they see the narcissist doing this, they deflect the narcissist’s attempts and refuse to respond in the way the narcissist expects. They will once again call the behavior out for what it is, exposing the narcissist’s vulnerability and inner turmoil.

Their resistance to such tactics is what makes a super-empath so dangerous to the narcissist. The narcissist can use this tactic to confuse people who are not as grounded in their own self-awareness and sense of self-value.

This allows them to manipulate the person, but it doesn’t work with the super-empath. Worse, the super-empath then flips the script by probing the narcissist’s motivations. Once again, the narcissist must be afraid of being exposed, and continued interaction with the super-empath can be disastrous for their fragile self-esteem.

  • They Demand Accountability

Super-empaths are not only extremely perceptive, but they also have a high level of integrity. They are fully aware of their own strengths and weaknesses as a result of their self-awareness, and they are not afraid to confront their flaws.

They demand accountability from those around them because they are so honest about their own character. The narcissist, on the other hand, will go to great lengths to keep others from blaming them or pointing out their flaws.

The narcissist’s problem is that the super-empath is not afraid to confront them and insist that they be held accountable for their actions. This is simply disastrous for the narcissist’s ego.

It’s something they can’t stand, and aside from the rage it elicits, the narcissist will frequently end a relationship with the empath because of this level of honesty. The narcissist has spent their entire life lying to everyone, including themselves, and when someone insists on holding them accountable for their actions, they would rather flee.

  • They are aware of the Narcissist’s insecurities.

Aside from seeing the narcissist’s behavior for what it is, the super-empath can also see the narcissist’s pain and insecurity. They literally feel their pain and want to assist.

The problem for the narcissist is that the super-empath understands that the only way to truly help is to confront those insecurities as well as the underlying causes of those feelings. Most of the time, narcissists are unable to do so because it would expose their worthless true self.

When the development of a healthy sense of self is disrupted in childhood, narcissism develops. This is usually because abusive parents tell them they are worthless.

Even well-meaning parents can contribute to this if they overprotect their child and never let them try anything. In either case, the child comes to believe that they are incapable of making decisions for themselves; that their true self is hopelessly flawed.

The child’s shame and self-loathing cause them to bury their flawed true self and construct a false image. Unfortunately, they then try to imbue that false image with all of the character traits they believe they lack.

They are trying to prop themselves up in their own childish way, to make themselves feel valuable. They instill in their false image the notion that they are superior, omniscient, and omnipotent. The super-empath sees right through this to their true fears and insecurities. That is truly terrifying for the narcissist and has the potential to destroy them.

  • They Have the Power to Change a Narcissist’s Mindset

While this is unlikely, if a narcissist remains in a relationship with a super-empath, the empath can eventually change the narcissist’s mindset and reduce their narcissistic tendencies. They can effectively destroy narcissism while leaving the narcissist alone.

They see what’s causing the narcissist’s low self-esteem and want to help. They can also see what will help, and because they are extremely empathetic, they are well-positioned to assist a narcissist in healing.

They can use their empathy to provide the narcissist with the compassion and kindness they require to overcome the childhood trauma that gave rise to their personality disorder. However, in order for this to occur, the narcissist must be willing to change.

That’s a problem because most narcissists will never admit to having flaws. It simply makes them feel too exposed and vulnerable. The super-empath, on the other hand, has a unique ability to draw out the narcissist’s fears, and if the narcissist chooses to heal, they can assist them in confronting and overcoming them.

While this is a possibility, it is not the super-responsibility, empath’s and it is not something others should expect them to do. It’s also not something they should put on themselves. Only a narcissist has the ability to change themselves.

That is true of anyone, but if the narcissist wishes to change, a super-empath can assist them. That is also why many super-empaths make excellent psychotherapists.

  • They reflect the Narcissist’s behavior.

The super-empath can also destroy the narcissist by reflecting their toxic behavior back at them. When a super-empath realizes they are dealing with a narcissist, they can easily tap into the narcissist’s insecurity.

They will then understand why the narcissist behaves in this manner, and they will be able to give them a taste of their own medicine. It’s an effective technique against a narcissist because much of what the narcissist says is a projection of their own characteristics.

The super-empath lacks those insecurities, but they understand why they provoke the narcissist’s toxic behavior. The empath can then use that understanding to mirror the narcissist’s behavior.

This strategy is very effective at undermining the narcissist’s attempts to manipulate and control the super-empath. It also forces them to consider the impact of their own behavior on those around them.

When a narcissist is forced to confront their own behavior, they frequently react with rage, but they may eventually experience a narcissistic collapse. This occurs when they are forced to confront their own flaws and true selves.

While it can be emotionally devastating, it also serves as a gateway to healing. If the narcissist can persevere, the super-empath can help them see that their true self was never worthless in the first place.

That could be the start of their healing process. It’s possible, but not likely. Most narcissists avoid having to go through a narcissistic collapse. They would rather end the relationship than confront the truth about their own behavior and the reasons for it.

If they work with the super-empath, the narcissist’s mindset can be completely transformed. They can then live a full and healthy life.

Why you should fix your attachment style to have better relationships

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Everyone deserves to have healthy, happy relationships. But lots of us are stuck in cycles of unhealthy and toxic relationships.

This is thanks to our upbringing and how we learned to relate to others.

For some, this means an anxious attachment style, where we are needy and have a fear of abandonment.

Meanwhile, others have an avoidant attachment style, where we keep emotional distance because we’re afraid of getting too close.

Both of these are insecure attachment styles.

What’s the solution?

To build an earned secure attachment style. This means that we understand ourselves and others. While also being able to relate to our past experiences in a healthy way.

This isn’t easy. It takes time and introspection. But it’s well worth it if it means getting the healthy and happy relationships you know you’ve always deserved

That we all deserve.

Get ahold of inner work exercises to help build your earned secure attachment style, so you can put an end to this cycle of toxic relationships once and for all.

Here are some resources I recommend:

Shadow Work for Beginners is based on my in-depth research and personal experiences with shadow work, projection, sadomasochism, inner child healing, triggers, and all things shadow. This resource gets updated at no additional cost.

A Light Among Shadows is a guide on self-love and being. This series goes over consciousness, spirituality, philosophy, and makes sense of why people are the way they are. Recommended for anyone dealing with resentment and self-hate. Learn more here.

Shadow Work for Relationships teaches you everything you need to know about attachment theory, practical inner work, and your dysfunctional behavior. By the end of this, you will have developed your earned secure attachment style so you can put an end to your cycle of bad relationships.


Shadow Work Journal: 240 Daily Shadow Work Prompts contains inner work exercises related to relationships, anger, anxiety, self-love, healing trauma, abandonment issues, depression, forgiveness, etc.

Self-Love Subliminal for self-hypnotism that will help you change your behavior and gain self-love, self-awareness, better relationships, greater health, and improve your creativity.

Shadow Play (or “DsR”) is a sister website that goes over “sensual” shadow work through BDSM experiences. If you are 18+ and are interested, go here.

Mindful & Mending is a small website that’s about self-hypnosis, affirmations, auto-suggestion, and more techniques & tools to help you shift your unconscious mind. Check it out here.

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