If you're new to shadow work, you're probably wondering "Should I do shadow work every day?".
Before we get into it, let's go over some key concepts.
What is Shadow Self & Shadow Work?
Your shadow self, or shadow, is the side of yourself you have no awareness of. It holds all the qualities you disowned during your formative years.
Although you learned to repress these qualities and push them outside of your awareness, they still live underneath the surface.
They unconsciously guide your actions and are the unseen cause for many of the troubles in your life.
Shadow work is the intentional practice of becoming aware of your unconscious shadow and integrating these neglected qualities into your being—becoming whole.
This is a process of building self-awareness, self-acceptance, and universal Love.
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."Carl Jung
Can you do shadow work daily?
Yes, you can do shadow work daily.
Here are two very popular and direct ways of getting in touch with your shadow:
Shadow work prompts are a popular method of doing shadow work, where you journal and self-reflect on a set of thoughtful questions. By putting your emotions and thoughts into words, you are "feeling" through and processing your inner world.
The purpose of these prompts is to work through your triggers, inner child healing, gain perspective for emotional maturity, and so on.
Click here to check out the Shadow Work Journal: 240 Daily Shadow Work Prompts.
Active imagination is a meditation technique where you project an emotion, or an archetype (shadow, inner child, anima/animus), onto an inner voice or imaginary image.
It's the most direct way to get the conscious to communicate with the unconscious.
You let your mind create a form for the unconscious to inhabit. Then you mentally let go of control of that form—allowing it to act independently.
Then you consult the form and ask it questions, which the unconscious will respond to.
Understand that the conscious mind is limited, while the unconscious mind is limitless and doesn't lie.
By being genuinely curious, you can demand the shadow to tell you what it wants from you and for you.
Expect this to be physically draining. Maybe even experience emotional catharsis.
Should I do shadow work everyday?
Depends on how badly you need it.
If life is going reasonably well and you don't feel triggered or compelled to demonize anyone on a regular basis, probably not so much.
But if life is not going your way and you have a low opinion of yourself, the world, and humanity—
Then you should consider doing some sort of shadow work every day as a form of "self-therapy."
If you have built an incredibly strong desire for very dark impulses—that is impossible to ignore—consider meeting with a professional.
In the meantime, a very simple affirmation you can use is "I love myself."
This is somewhat of a "cheap" but effective trick to settle your ego and shadow.
By repeating the words "I love myself" to yourself for minutes, hours, or even days, you will develop an appreciation for yourself as a whole—
Mainly since the affirmation implies unconditional love, it will ease any shadow material that usually arises out of you unconsciously.
You can repeat this affirmation aloud or in your head. At least until you find some further guidance.
Here are some resources I recommend:
Shadow Work for Beginners is based on my in-depth research and personal experiences with shadow work, projection, sadomasochism, inner child healing, triggers, and all things shadow. This resource gets updated at no additional cost.
A Light Among Shadows is a guide on self-love and being. This series goes over consciousness, spirituality, philosophy, and makes sense of why people are the way they are. Recommended for anyone dealing with resentment and self-hate. Learn more here.
Shadow Work for Relationships teaches you everything you need to know about attachment theory, practical inner work, and your dysfunctional behavior. By the end of this, you will have developed your earned secure attachment style so you can put an end to your cycle of bad relationships.
Shadow Work Journal: 240 Daily Shadow Work Prompts contains inner work exercises related to relationships, anger, anxiety, self-love, healing trauma, abandonment issues, depression, forgiveness, etc.
Manifestation Manual: The Path of Least Resistance bundle teaches you some holistic and systems thinking along with how to mend your inner child wounds so you can align with your higher self and move forward in life. This includes 20 video clips as a free bonus.
Shadow Play (or “DsR”) is a small sister website that goes over “sensual” shadow work through my BDSM experiences. If you are 18+ and are interested, go here.