In this post, we go over shadow work for guilt, or more specifically, when guilt triggers you.
If you are triggered by guilt, you need to own your conscientiousness.
Before we go more into that, you need to know what shadow is.
What is Shadow Self & Shadow Work?
Your shadow self, or shadow, is the side of yourself you have no awareness of. It holds all the qualities you disowned during your formative years.
Although you learned to repress these qualities and push them outside of your awareness, they still live underneath the surface.
They unconsciously guide your actions and are the unseen cause for many of the troubles in your life.
Shadow work is the intentional practice of becoming aware of your unconscious shadow and integrating these neglected qualities into your being—becoming whole.
This is a process of building self-awareness, self-acceptance, and universal Love.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”Carl Jung
Shadow Work for Guilt Trigger
Conscientious, or productive people tend to inherently place more importance onto labor being responsible for their position in life. Which is very true depending on the cards you’ve been dealt.
This can explain why conscientious people who are privileged are so easy to brush off those who claim they work hard but aren’t successful.
Everyone does work hard, but success that is recognized by others really is a few and far between thing. And those who have more resources will get there sooner than others.
Conscientiousness can also be more organized and more easily disgusted. Which explains the looking down upon those who are less fortunate, because they aren’t aware of the different realities either side have lived out.
When conscientious people become aware that personalities are different and people’s lives are very different, by breaking through this close-mindedness and being more accepting—essentially maturing—they’ll stop being so ideological, if they were.
People who are on the higher end conscientious, or industrious, bear more unconscious guilt in their psyche that compels them to put in more hours, or put in more work.
While these people are out having fun and socializing, they might notice an inner pang telling them “I should be doing something more important right now”.
You might say this similar to how an introvert blows their social gasket and shuts down, and they feel the need to get away and go home.
Conscientious people also tend to be less impulsive, and more reliable in general. If they say they’ll do something, you can be pretty confident that they’ll do it.
So how can you be more conscientious? Although it’s a personality trait, there are behaviors you can pick up to help you integrate this:
Set a timer for 5 minutes to clean your living space. Or two minutes. Whatever is an improvement for you.
Build a loose schedule for productivity. People are different in terms of productivity. While I can select one dedicated project to work on and work on it from early in the morning for hours and hours well into the day. Other people can be inclined to be relatively stress-free until later on in the day, where they become more productive in the afternoon and evening. Then you have those who are more spontaneous and like to jump between projects because they get bored easily. You want to lean into your given nature.
People who are more, I guess relentless have more follow-through. Those who are jump back and forth, it’s okay to do that. It will take longer to achieve your goals, but as long as you don’t throw out any of your projects, you’ll still get a lot done. Attend whichever project is most interesting at the time, when you get bored of that, jump to one of your other works-in-progress. Make a schedule that’s loose but you will still follow.
Keep your promises. This is about keeping a promise to another person. Where you know that if you don’t keep it, you’ll feel bad or guilty. Unlike the other two tips, instead of letting yourself down, you are letting someone else down.
When it comes down to it—have some fucking dreams. Something to aspire for. Something to feel bad about if you don’t reach. And although this sort of goes against the self-love and self-awareness motif of my account. You’re still human, and I think leveraging your own guilt and shame is great if it means building yourself as a person more practically. As important as your inner world is, aspiring for higher in the outer world, I think is just as important, if not more in certain phases of life.
Tough love aside—if things don’t work out. Do come back. Some of my content can deliver you from your suffering, whatever that means to you. I get it. And know that failure that’s been observed only brings you closer to Reality. Greater awareness. And helps you build upon your inner resources.
Here are some resources I recommend:
Shadow Work for Beginners is based on my in-depth research and personal experiences with shadow work, projection, sadomasochism, inner child healing, triggers, and all things shadow. This resource gets updated at no additional cost.
A Light Among Shadows is a guide on self-love and being. This series goes over consciousness, spirituality, philosophy, and makes sense of why people are the way they are. Recommended for anyone dealing with resentment and self-hate. Learn more here.
Shadow Work for Relationships teaches you everything you need to know about attachment theory, practical inner work, and your dysfunctional behavior. By the end of this, you will have developed your earned secure attachment style so you can put an end to your cycle of bad relationships.
Shadow Work Journal: 240 Daily Shadow Work Prompts contains inner work exercises related to relationships, anger, anxiety, self-love, healing trauma, abandonment issues, depression, forgiveness, etc.
Self-Love Subliminal for self-hypnotism that will help you change your behavior and gain self-love, self-awareness, better relationships, greater health, and improve your creativity.
Shadow Play (or “DsR”) is a sister website that goes over “sensual” shadow work through BDSM experiences. If you are 18+ and are interested, go here.
Mindful & Mending is a small website that’s about self-hypnosis, affirmations, auto-suggestion, and more techniques & tools to help you shift your unconscious mind. Check it out here.