In this post, we discuss ideas about karmic relationships being toxic and one-sided.
Are karmic relationships toxic & one-sided?
Are karmic connections one-sided? Everyone wants to love and be loved, but some of us end up in karmic relationships. It has been ingrained in us since day one, whether it was hard wired into our brains as children through the programs we were raised on or through what our families taught us.
The majority of karmic relationships are toxic and one-sided. According to research, this can lead to one person being self-serving and the other doing everything they can to keep the other happy.
Sometimes you meet someone and realize within the first five minutes of your date that they aren’t going anywhere. However, every now and then, someone appears, and their connection is instantaneous. You want to be with them all the time and can’t imagine life without them, but then they turn hot and cold like a Katy Perry song, leaving you completely in the dark. There’s a lot of uncertainty about where things are. This sporadic behavior can last for months before you realize you’ve spent all of your time and energy on a draining situation that never changes. However, no matter how hard you try to convince yourself to let go of this person, you simply cannot. If you recognize yourself in this situation,
There are two types of karmic connections. The first is when you meet someone from a previous life and return to heal what happened between you then. The second occurs when you are stuck in a situation due to a karmic pattern that needs to be healed, such as failing to stand up for yourself, losing yourself in a relationship, or taking advantage of others.
While it is possible to form karmic relationships with people you know, it is not required. You can also use someone new to heal your karma. The goal of this type of relationship, in any case, is to heal and grow.
How to know if you are in a karmic relationship?
A romantic karmic relationship is defined by the feeling that both partners have always known each other. They may be so enamored with their partner that they are unaware that this person is in their life to help them work through some issues.
Karmic relationships are frequently mistaken for toxic relationships, but this is not always the case. According to study results, it all depends on who you’re in that relationship with, the type of karma you share, and the karmic pattern you need to clear. You could be in a karmic relationship with a soul mate, someone with whom your soul has made a contract, or with someone who is not a soul mate, which could be anyone you know. Being in a karmic situation with a soulmate can lead to a lot more ups and downs because soulmate relationships are more emotionally intense than other relationships. It can feel as if there is no sense of stability, security, or calm at times.
You may notice communication breakdowns, personality quirks that drive you crazy, trust issues, or abuse in a karmic relationship with a soulmate. Because the relationship can feel so intense, it can lead to unhealthy behaviors such as ignoring other people in your life to focus on your partner or making excuses for them all the time. You might find yourself in an on-again, off-again relationship that never becomes more stable. You keep coming back, even though you know you deserve better.
If that dynamic sounds like a toxic relationship, it’s because karmic relationships frequently include a toxic component. Its goal is to push you and help you break free from a pattern that has been holding you back. These circumstances will continue to push you until you are ready to grow.
It will take time and a lot of self-reflection to figure out what that pattern is. According to Kilcup, some people may have a karmic lesson to stand up for themselves, know their own worth, and refuse to be exploited. Learning to empathize with others, having compassion, being vulnerable, and learning to say ‘No’ are all examples of karmic patterns that we are here to clear.
How to get rid of a karmic situation
You must first admit that you are in a karmic relationship in order to get out of it. This is usually the most difficult part. We can easily deny it and tell ourselves, “But I really love them!” as she puts it. You adore them, I’m sure. But just because you adore them doesn’t mean you should commit to a long-term relationship with them.
If you and your partner share karma, you must be willing to work through the problems together. Breaking up with someone doesn’t always imply that your karmic ties are forever severed. When you end a relationship without working through your issues and problems, which is common when a relationship is unhealthy, your karma connection may or may not end.
It’s important to remember that you don’t have to work on your problems with someone who isn’t willing to put forth the effort. You don’t have to stay in a toxic relationship just because you share a strong spiritual bond. The lessons you learned in this relationship can be applied to another relationship with someone else. Regardless of the other person or your relationship with them, your karmic issues are yours.
Why you should fix your attachment style to have better relationships
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Everyone deserves to have healthy, happy relationships. But lots of us are stuck in cycles of unhealthy and toxic relationships.
This is thanks to our upbringing and how we learned to relate to others.
For some, this means an anxious attachment style, where we are needy and have a fear of abandonment.
Meanwhile, others have an avoidant attachment style, where we keep emotional distance because we’re afraid of getting too close.
Both of these are insecure attachment styles.
What’s the solution?
To build an earned secure attachment style. This means that we understand ourselves and others. While also being able to relate to our past experiences in a healthy way.
This isn’t easy. It takes time and introspection. But it’s well worth it if it means getting the healthy and happy relationships you know you’ve always deserved—
That we all deserve.
Get ahold of inner work exercises to help build your earned secure attachment style, so you can put an end to this cycle of toxic relationships once and for all.
Here are some resources I recommend:
Shadow Work for Beginners is based on my in-depth research and personal experiences with shadow work, projection, sadomasochism, inner child healing, triggers, and all things shadow. This resource gets updated at no additional cost.
A Light Among Shadows is a guide on self-love and being. This series goes over consciousness, spirituality, philosophy, and makes sense of why people are the way they are. Recommended for anyone dealing with resentment and self-hate. Learn more here.
Shadow Work for Relationships teaches you everything you need to know about attachment theory, practical inner work, and your dysfunctional behavior. By the end of this, you will have developed your earned secure attachment style so you can put an end to your cycle of bad relationships.
Shadow Work Journal: 240 Daily Shadow Work Prompts contains inner work exercises related to relationships, anger, anxiety, self-love, healing trauma, abandonment issues, depression, forgiveness, etc.
Self-Love Subliminal for self-hypnotism that will help you change your behavior and gain self-love, self-awareness, better relationships, greater health, and improve your creativity.
Shadow Play (or “DsR”) is a sister website that goes over “sensual” shadow work through BDSM experiences. If you are 18+ and are interested, go here.
Mindful & Mending is a small website that’s about self-hypnosis, affirmations, auto-suggestion, and more techniques & tools to help you shift your unconscious mind. Check it out here.